flirting and other mysteries of the universe

To flirt or not to flirt. That is the question. Within the realm of the Christian world, is flirting a dangerous pastime? Is it an ungodly behavior? OR, even more thought provoking in my personal opinon, is it a tool to be used wisely? I find myself flirting with any number of people on a given day, but it is with no intent and completely harmless. Winking at the older gentleman ringing up my groceries, making vague innuendos amongst defined friends, doing a double take at the guy in the car next to mine at a red light.....all insignificant, yet still flirting in a simple kind of way. Is this wrong I ask? But, then again, I suppose this leads us into a deeper, philosophical question of motive and intent. Because I know there are people in my life with whom I flirt so as to get a reaction, or to see what would happen if they took me seriously. Right or wrong? Is flirting simply an aspect of the multi-faceted mating dance, or is it a selfish tool used against our brothers in Christ to seek self-serving attention? I'm definately interested in a response.

My second pondering today into the great mysteries of our universe is the word 'gentle'. I used it earlier in reference to a 'gentleman', but what is that really? I associate the word with holding a newborn, or petting a puppy, or (hopefully) my gynocologist. :) But seriously, I want to encounter this action. I want someone to be gentle with me...whatever that means. Define this for me please. And if it crosses your mind...show me...